Do straight men have gay experiences

Femininity is traditionally viewed as a spectacle, or a show. The alibis that are available to men are different to the ones available to women, and are consistent with the way we think about masculinity and femininity.

Straight-identified women get to have sexual contact with another woman as long as it is a show for men. The subject of straight-identifying men who have sex with other men is a fascinating one, in that it shines a light on some extremely potent, personal concepts pertaining to identity and sexuality and one’s place in society.

Straight, gay, pansexual, asexual, transsexual, hetero-flexible, bisexual; the endless list of sexual identities surely indicates society is heading in an ever-more inclusive direction, right? Sexuality is often described as a spectrum; some people identify as entirely straight and others as entirely gay.

One idea looks at the very fundamentals of both masculinity and femininity. Because, despite the significant shift in numbers of younger people identifying as something other than heterosexual, there still seems to be one area of sexual activity where the shift in attitudes are lagging behind - men experimenting with men.

Ward argues that it is largely down to both our culture and to the media. There are events such as Bivisibility Dayexternal which takes place every year on 23 September which can only help increase awareness, but what else could help?

It seems that the anonymity of an online persona, in a community of like-minded people - such as a forum - is comforting enough for some people to vocalise their experiences. Look at the Madonna and Britney Spears kissexternal.

So where do these preconceptions come from? I have heard from any number of women who are understandably shocked and confused to find out that the man they are seeing or married to has been having sexual experiences with other men.

The images are everywhere and there are no consequences to that. For example a MMF threesome: I think both guys involved there can be straight as a ruler but still enjoy the experience - but their enjoyment would stem from the female partner. Yet there are still some social barriers that refuse to budge - especially for those people who aren't entirely sure of their own sexuality.

The contrast between reported sexual orientation and actual, IRL sexual experience is where things get interesting. Often same-sex sexual contact between men will take a form of hyper-masculinity and joking around. I reached out to some straight-identified people who have sexually experimented, but found people reluctant to talk.

In short, this study would suggest young people are feeling less and less straight. A further 1% of men and % of women said they gay men giving head know” or refused to answer the question.

Another studyexternal looked at same-sex experiences in Americans between and By the time of the last survey, 7. While % of all male respondents reported being either gay or bisexual, however, the number who said that they’d engaged in either oral or anal sex with another man at some point in their lives was much higher, at %.

Ward explained to me that straight men would be more likely to have a relationship with a bisexual woman than women are with a bisexual man. More male celebrities to open up about their same sex dalliances - in the same way Miley and Madonna have?

Perhaps the reason same-sex experimentation remains more controversial for men than women can be put down to the fact that, for whatever reason, men often feel ashamed or guilty when faced with a desire to try a few new things out.

I went back to my anonymous friends online. Just % of men in the report identified as gay, while 2% said they were. So I did what a lot of people do and went online. I wanted to see if this was true. Why would this be the case?